By: Ify Uche
No one can give what they don’t have in the first place. Deep calls unto deep, and where there is disparity in depth, deep will out of pain and pointless grinding continue to call unto shallow.
If you find yourself in a situation where you consistently give unrequited love, care, attention, honour, and respect, a time comes when you either get broken and lose yourself, or you wake up and self- preserve.
One truth we shouldn’t forget is that our humanity demands that we are treated with dignity.
Experience has shown that whilst right to dignity or dignified treatment is natural, people may not freely recognize that right and extend honour to others.
So, you set the tone by how you treat and conduct yourself in your relationship with others. You know, the reassuring thing about honour and respect is that you know when you are treated poorly by anyone.
So, don’t keep quite in the face of dishonor, disrespect and lack of consideration.
Come to the table and communicate your disapproval of the poor treatment.
Make it clear (in case they are not aware) that you treat others right (if you do) and that you demand same of them.
Where you are responsible for the treatment you receive, retrace your steps and hope for the best.
After you make amends and there is no change in their attitude, a reasonable time having elapsed, you may want to rethink your environment.
To be mentally healthy, you have to be selective of your space and how you are treated.
