By: George Ozalla
–Opinion–
This disturbing and unfortunate matter is indeed complex and multifaceted, extending beyond the realm of superficial understanding.
As I aptly remind us, “it’s something that doesn’t have a head that ultimately consumes a head” – a Yoruba proverb that highlights the self-destructive nature of certain conflicts.
My candid observation is that no two cases are usually identical. Sometimes, many loosely believe that they are. The dynamics at play in Akpabio’s situation are vastly different from Natasha’s. His prompt apology underscores the importance of accountability and humility in leadership. Furthermore, it’s a clear case of man versus man scenario.
It’s crucial to recognize that each scenario demands a unique approach. What works in one context may not be effective in another.
The realm of politics is replete with landmines, tricks, diplomacy, lobbying, negotiation, friendship, enmity, jealousy, favors (whether merited or not), and numerous other complexities – both overt and covert!
While activism or radicalism, resistance, and stubbornness may be effective strategies in certain situations, such as in trade unionism, they can also exacerbate conflicts and lead to unintended consequences if wholly imported into the political arena.
It’s essential to approach each situation with nuance and discernment, recognizing that sometimes discretion, restraint, caution, and retreat are the better parts of valor.
A personal anecdote from my trade unionism days serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of self-awareness and strategic retreat. I was once being goaded and praised by my colleagues as the only brave person who could fight the authority then concerning a certain anti-workers policy introduced. However, I paused, pondered, and retreated to their utter surprise and disappointment.
By recognizing when to push forward and when to pull back, we can avoid unnecessary conflicts and conserve our energy for more critical battles.
As the ancient Chinese Philosopher and Military Strategist, Sun Tzu, once said, “Know yourself, know your enemy, and know the terrain; then you can win a hundred battles.”
In this case, it’s essential to recognize the complexities of the situation – or even the simplicity of mere seat reallocation without prior notification. We must also consider the motivations of the parties involved and the potential consequences of our actions. By doing so, we can navigate these treacherous waters with greater wisdom and discernment. I don’t know what benefit it will bring to anyone to continue stoking the fire.
Furthermore, it’s essential to acknowledge that, as onlookers and mere commentators, we often lack the full context and understanding of the situation. Our perceptions are filtered through our own biases, experiences, sentiments, emotions, and limited information. As the saying goes, “There are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth.”
It’s crucial to approach these situations with humility, recognizing the limitations of our knowledge and the potential for misinterpretation.
Ultimately, the wisdom of restraint and discernment is essential in navigating complex conflicts like this one.
As the Japanese proverb goes, “Fall down seven times, stand up eight. “Sometimes, it’s necessary to yield and regroup rather than pushing forward with reckless abandon.
By embracing this wisdom, we can foster greater understanding, empathy, and peace in our interactions with others. A simple word – “sorry” – has prevented sorrow and regret in the past, will continue to do so in the present, and will remain effective in the future until the end of time.
