–Opinion-
By George Ozalla
Have you ever felt drained, emotionally and mentally, after interacting with certain individuals? Do you find yourself wondering why some people seem to suck the energy out of you, leaving you feeling depleted and exhausted? The truth is, not everyone who claims to be your friend has your best interests at heart. Some individuals may masquerade as friends while harboring an exploitative mindset, expecting to constantly take away more than they can give- even when they have.
Let’s reflect on what an ancient Greek philosopher, Aristotle, once said, “A true friend is a soul in two bodies.” Unfortunately, not everyone shares this sentiment. Some individuals may pretend to be friends while secretly harboring ulterior motives, selfishly draining your resources, time, and energy without giving anything in return. These liabilities often exhibit a laid-back attitude, expecting others to cater to their needs without effort. They may excessively praise you with ulterior motives. They may appear charming and friendly on the surface, but beneath lies a heart of ingratitude and a mindset geared towards exploitation.
They may constantly ask for favors without reciprocating, expect financial support without contributing to the relationship, drain your emotional energy with their never-ending problems, or use guilt trips or manipulation to get what they want. Individuals with an exploitative mindset often prioritize their own needs far above others. They may use people for personal gain, whether emotional, financial, or social. They may use flattery to manipulate others, play on people’s emotions, blackmail, take credit for others’ work or ideas, or show a complete lack of empathy.
It’s essential to surround yourself with like-minded individuals who share your values and principles. When you are among people who understand and share your vision, you are more likely to feel energized and motivated. Revered Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Choose to surround yourself with people who inspire, motivate, and believe in collaborative success.
Toxic friendships can be subtle, but signs include feeling drained after interactions, always giving without receiving, having your feelings disregarded, or being made to feel guilty for setting boundaries. If you are in such relationships, it is time to reevaluate and set boundaries. Maya Angelou’s evergreen quote, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” can equally serve as a guide.
Stand firm and take control of your relationships and prioritize your well-being. Set clear boundaries, limit interactions with draining individuals, prioritize self-care, seek support from trusted ones, and practice healthy detachment. Toxic relationships can profoundly impact your mental and emotional well-being. By surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals and setting boundaries, you can break free from draining friendships. Remember, your energy is precious; invest it in relationships that uplift and inspire you to grow and not fade away. Identify toxic relationships, recalibrate boundaries, prioritize self-care, and cultivate healthy communication. By doing so, you will better navigate relationships and protect your energy and your precious life, because if you drop dead today trying to meet everyone’s demands, they will certainly move on to the next available person.
This opinion does not in anyway negate the importance of being supportive and kind-hearted, but rather emphasizes the need for discernment.
*Ozalla is the Publisher & Editor-in-Chief: Newscount Magazine
