*Opinion*
By George Ozalla
The unhealthy practice of begging can also strain relationships with family, friends, and even strangers. Frequent requests for money can lead to feelings of resentment and mistrust, causing people to become less willing to help. Furthermore, widespread begging can impact societal attitudes towards giving and generosity, potentially resulting in donor fatigue. The issue lies not in seeking help when needed, but in the audacity of habitual begging, where individuals exploit the kindness of others without any intention of improving their circumstances.
Rather than begging, individuals could focus on developing skills or exploring entrepreneurial ventures that provide a sustainable source of income. This approach not only fosters financial stability but also promotes a sense of accomplishment and independence. Shifting the mindset towards self-sufficiency and creativity can help individuals work towards a more secure and dignified future. It is also worth noting that aggregated little handouts from chronic serial beggars can, in real sense, surpass what those kind people may have in their possession.
The issue with begging lies not just in the act itself, but in the underlying mindset it represents. When people beg, they are often seeking temporary solutions rather than addressing the root causes of their struggles. Encouraging individuals to think creatively and seek out opportunities can help them build a more stable and fulfilling life. On the other hand, seeking funding for viable initiatives from wealthy individuals or organizations can be a legitimate and respectable approach, especially when done with a clear plan and vision for creating positive impact.
There is this agelong saying, “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.” This timeless proverb highlights the importance of empowering individuals with the right skills and knowledge they need to achieve stability, while also acknowledging that occasional support can be a vital lifeline.
The irony is that some individuals tend to ignore useful information or other forms of support that can help shape their exposure or self-reliance status, prioritizing financial handouts instead. Some may even view those who don’t provide them with money as “bad” or “wicked,” despite any other efforts to offer guidance or support. It is worthy to note that occasional assistance may be necessary, but habitual begging can become a destructive pattern. Promoting a culture of self-reliance and personal responsibility encourages individuals to seek help when necessary while striving to improve their own circumstances.
It can be perfectly ideal to have someone of influence and means sit with you and discuss freely without coming up with the idea of “please gift me money.” Rather, discussing something of mutual benefit can lead to more meaningful and sustainable outcomes, fostering a sense of partnership and collaboration.
It is also crucial to resist the urge of carrying tales of woes and pity around as if yours is the worst case scenario that no one else has ever passed through. What if someone you are asking for a handout is deeply in debt, owing financial institutions or into several financial commitments, which he or she is not willing to share with you? Considering the potential struggles and challenges of others can foster empathy and more meaningful interactions.
Don’t readily assume or conclude that whoever you are asking for financial assistance or borrowing money from has it handy to part with. Some may have financial obligations to their families and wards, and circumstances beyond their control can lead to unintentional defaults. Creating enmity over someone not assisting financially can be misguided, as their decision might be based on personal priorities, financial constraints, past ugly experience or simply not being willing to part with their money at that particular point in time, for reasons best known to them.
This write-up is not suggesting that there are people who do not need genuine financial support. However, it is also true that if you publicly note and disclose everyone who gives and does not give, you are essentially condemning yourself as someone who frequently seeks handouts.
*Ozalla is the Publisher & Editor-in-Chief of Newscount..
